Whether it’s good or bad, but every woman
can individually make a decision – to give a
birth to a child or not. Yet, a practising
psychotherapist Tatiana Ohneva-Salvoni
explained how actually an abortion can
affect a woman’s life after, because
obviously, such operation will leave its mark.
1. Influence on couple relationships
Even if a decision about making an abortion
is mutual, it doesn’t mean that a couple will
absolutely forget about it and live happily
ever after. The fact that they turned out to
be unprepared to create a family, already
shows that there are some problems which
this couple can’t overcome. The trust is
harmed, as well as the confidence in the
future. There’s even a special term in
psychology that after the abortion a woman
“aborts” her partner from her heart too.
2. Pangs of conscience
Even if you came to a decision about
abortion or already did it, it doesn’t mean,
that you won’t have pangs of conscience.
Anyway, you took away a human’s life. A
human, who was a part of your flesh and
blood. Don’t think, that it won’t leave a mark
on your memory. Pangs of conscience can
take you by surprise, but what is done can’t
be undone.
3. Influence of your future children
There happened to be some cases in
psychotherapeutic practice, when children,
who were born after their mother once made an abortion, were growing depressive and couldn’t adapt to the life. As if somehow such children don’t feel that they should enjoy the life because their predecessors weren’t destined to come into the world.
4. Neurotic feeling of guilt
This influence differs from pangs of
conscience because it’s imposed by society.
A woman feels as if the doctors and
surrounding persons condemn her action,
thus she starts feeling guilty towards
everyone, who considers this action as a sin.
Again, only you can decide whether to give a life to a child or not, but you should
remember that such action will leave a mark on your life forever. If you came to a
decision to make an abortion, you should
prepare that your life will loose its bright
side for some time.
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